Empty Nest Syndrome
As parents, having our children around, raising and nurturing them and seeing them happy is our greatest satisfaction. No matter how old they grow we want to be protective and sheltering them.
But as they grow independent and start taking their decisions about career, life and partners, sometimes as overindulgent parents we feel greatly cut off from their lives. When the time comes for them to move out, some parents feel the void and go into depression and sadness specially the mothers. All parents go through the pangs of loneliness and empty nest specially the Indian parents. I remember when my kids moved out for career and work I felt miserable too even though I am working mother but soon adjusted being away from them. I have tried to step back and let them lead their lives independently, dropping hints when and if they need any guidance. Having them over during vacations or going to meet them is something I look forward to.
It’s a way to empower them to take their own decisions in every aspect of life without any interference. Nowadays with the advanced technology video calls and text messages keep us connected and is makes it easier to deal with the empty nest. After all, unless children learn to fly how else will they make their own nest confidently and lead a good life?
My empty house in my empty soul,
Talks to me and to these beautiful walls.
Talks, which are often monologues,
And as it talks, I deeply listen!
I listen in complete awe,
visualising the world with my kids,
Where all their favourite things suddenly
become animated,
They talk to me all the time.
The soft toys, books, the guitar and the key board!
Their perfumes, dresses and the shoes!
They often narrate to me a lot of stories
Stories which keep me engrossed,
Their presence is felt in their absence.
As I keep waiting in hope for them,
Till they come and visit again,
The house and I look forward to
Some fun, frolic and laughter too.
Loud music and animated discussions,
Bringing back happy times again !
I know they are happy in their nests ,
As parents, we wish them all the best !