TOTAL ACCEPTANCE

I often tell people these days that I have lowered my expectations from those in my life to a great extent. So much so, that even from people close to me, I feel I shouldn’t expect much. In most cases, the return I get is – ‘“Has something happened to you? You are being spiritual/philosophical.”
I laugh. 

That obviously makes me think that expectations from others is so much a part of our lives. Our psyche. Our existence. Over the years, I have come to realise that expectations is perhaps the inception of several problems. And especially in relationships.  The moment we enter a relationship, we beef up our expectations from that person. Whether it is from a friend, or a lover, so someone else for that matter. Understandably, our expectation breeds from our understanding from our own self. We feel, if I can do, why can’t he? If am capable of giving so much, why can’t she?

And, probably that’s where the problem begins. I have been through this myself. I have seen and gauged people from the point of view of what I am. Who I am. And that, and I say, is the biggest mistake we make. I made. 

It is rather important to understand the fact that everyone is different and have their own ways of dealing with situations and people. No two people are alike. The way I show my care and love, needn’t be the same way for the others. The way I address a certain problem, needn’t be the route that the others take to solve it.

And that now, brings us to the word- ‘acceptance’. A relationship of love and care is only successful when there is total acceptance. Until that happens, there’s always be a tussle of expectations, that eventually will breed resentment. And, that will slowly turn sour, completely dissolving a relationship that we valued. Once.

I am still trying. I am still moving ahead in this path of total acceptance. To accept people as they are. At least those whom I vouch that I love and care for. 

Or else, maybe I should stop using the word love frivolously. Hai na?
Because can there be love without total acceptance? 

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