WOMEN, STOP TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE!

Everyday I come across women feeling guilty; guilty of not being a good mother, a good wife, a good daughter, a good daughter-in-law, a good employee, a good employer, and so on.  Anything happens in the family; the women start blaming themselves as not being able to handle the situation properly.  If the child gets hurt, she blames herself.  If the husband is not getting enough attention from her, she blames herself.  If the in-laws aren’t satisfied, she blames herself.  If she is not able to attend to her parents because of any genuine reason, she blames herself.

Have you ever seen men blaming themselves?  Then why is it so that women always feel guilty about something or the other?  Why do women think that they are responsible for everyone’s happiness and wellbeing?  Why do they feel sad, bad and guilty if they are unable to be perfect?

This is partly because of the conditioning of girls right from the childhood in our society.  Girls should take care of their parents’ feelings and “honour”.  Girls are taught that one day they will become daughters-in-law and mother and its their duty to keep the family bonding intact.  She should not hurt the feelings of anyone and try to keep everyone happy and healthy. 

It is high time women realize that the onus of happiness of the entire family is not her responsibility alone.  Any relationship works from both the sides.  Women are allowed to be flawed, to make mistakes, and not feel guilty about it.  She is as human as anyone else.

Do your best but never try to be too perfect.

RITWIKA ROY MUTSUDDI

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